What should I do if I think someone is stalking me online?

Cyber stalking involves the use of digital technology to harass, intimidate, or monitor someone. It can include excessive messaging, online threats, hacking, or tracking someone's online activities with or without their knowledge.

Below are some of the things that indicate cyber stalking, remember, the difference with stalking and usual contact is the feeling it generates. Ask yourself, do I feel intimidated, threatened or unsafe, fearful and is there a somewhat predictable pattern to the contact that could add to these feelings. 

• Receiving an excessive number of messages, emails, or social media interactions, especially if they become threatening

• Unwanted contact from fake accounts or multiple profiles

• Someone tracking your online activities, such as frequently commenting on posts immediately after you share them

• Unauthorised access to your personal accounts, including email or social media

• Spreading false information or posting personal details without your consent

• Sharing images of you without your knowledge or consent

What can I do if I’m being cyber stalked?

The measures below are some options to help keep you safer online.

• Strengthen your online privacy - adjust social media settings to limit public access to your posts and personal information

• Block and report the stalker - use platform-specific tools to prevent further contact and report harassment to the site administrators

• Avoid engaging with the stalker - do not respond to messages, as engagement can encourage further interaction

• Document all interactions - save messages, screenshots, and any digital evidence of stalking behaviour as this maybe required by the police at a later date

• Use cybersecurity measures: enable two-factor authentication (this usually involves verifying your log on with a code emailed or texted to you), update passwords regularly, and monitor your accounts for suspicious activity

Reporting and seeking support

If an incident has occurred but you are not in immediate danger, you can still seek support and take action.

• Contact Campus Safety, who can provide appropriate guidance

• Alternatively, you can use the online Report + Support platform, where you may choose to report anonymously

Experiencing stalking or harassment can be distressing. If you need emotional support, the Centre for Wellbeing offers free, confidential support, including access to counsellors and mental health practitioners.

Further information and support resources are available for victims of stalking:

• Harassment and sexual misconduct (University of Surrey)

• Suzy Lamplugh Trust – Home to the National Stalking Helpline

• Police guidance on stalking and harassment, including how to report incidents

• Women’s Aid – Support for those affected by stalking and harassment.