How do I start a conversation with my flatmates?

If you would like to start a conversation with others you are living with, but are unsure where to begin, here are some useful tips to try!

Compliment Them on Small Things

Notice their t-shirt, shoes, hairstyle, or something they’ve chosen to wear. Compliments on little details show you’ve paid attention and help break the ice.

Ask Genuine Questions

• How are you settling into your room?

• Have you been enjoying your classes so far?

• Have you joined any societies?

• Do you want to come shopping with me?

Be Engaged When Talking

• Show you’re interested in what they say.

• Ask follow-up questions.

• Put your phone away.

• Give eye contact.

• Smile and keep your tone warm.

Ask for Help

Simple questions can spark conversation, show you trust each other, and gives you a chance to bond:

• Do you know how the cooking hob works?

• Do you know where we pick up our post?

• Which bus goes to the supermarket?

Listen to Each Other

When we’re nervous, we focus on what we want to say and forget to really listen. Listening helps conversations flow better and ensures both sides feel understood.

Respectful Language

Even when frustrated, be mindful of your words. Respectful language avoids offence and helps keep the conversation calm and constructive.

Open Body Language

• Avoid crossed arms or slouching.

• Sit upright and make eye contact.

• Use gestures that show you’re open and engaged.

Bring Ideas, Not Blame

Think about solutions rather than complaints. For example, suggest a cleaning rota or shared quiet times. Small, practical steps work best when everyone agrees on them.